Regret is not simply sadness about the past. It is the silent conversation between the life we lived and the life our soul longed to live.
Regret arises when our actions, choices, or silence move away from our inner truth. It is the feeling that somewhere along the journey, we abandoned a part of ourselves — our voice, our desires, our authenticity, or our courage.
Regret is deeply human. It does not mean we failed; it means we were aware enough to recognize that something within us wanted more honesty, more love, or more alignment.
Often, regret is less about what happened and more about what remained unexpressed — the love we didn’t say, the boundaries we didn’t set, the dreams we postponed, or the truth we silenced.
Why Do People Die With Regrets?
Many people reach the later stages of life realizing that they lived according to expectations rather than authenticity.
They fulfilled roles but forgot their essence.
They followed responsibilities but ignored inner longing.
They chose safety over aliveness.
One of the deepest human fears is rejection — so people adjust themselves to fit into relationships, families, careers, or social identities. Slowly, the authentic self becomes quieter, and the conditioned self takes control.
Regrets accumulate when people wait for the “right time” to live truthfully, believing they will change later, speak later, love later, or become themselves later.
But life is lived only in the present moment. When presence is replaced by postponement, regret becomes inevitable.
Why Do People Struggle to Overcome Regrets?
Regret is painful because it confronts us with responsibility. To move beyond regret, a person must face uncomfortable truths:
“I knew.”
“I felt it.”
“I ignored it.”
Many people avoid healing regret because it requires emotional honesty. The mind often protects itself through denial, justification, or blame because admitting regret can feel like admitting weakness or failure.
Shame also plays a powerful role. Instead of seeing regret as a teacher, people see it as proof that they made irreversible mistakes.
Another barrier is identity. People become attached to the story of who they were — the caretaker, the victim, the achiever, the silent supporter — and changing means letting go of familiar self-concepts.
Why Does Ego Stop the Soul From Being Free?
The ego is not the enemy; it is a protective structure created to ensure safety, belonging, and survival.
But when ego becomes dominant, it seeks control, validation, and certainty. It fears vulnerability because vulnerability threatens its constructed identity.
The soul, however, seeks expansion, authenticity, and truth.
The ego says: “Stay where you are safe.” “Do not risk rejection.” “Maintain control.”
The soul whispers: “Grow.” “Express.” “Become who you truly are.”
When ego leads, choices are often based on fear — fear of judgment, loss, change, or uncertainty. These fear-based decisions disconnect us from our deeper knowing.
Freedom comes when ego shifts from being the ruler to becoming the protector while allowing the soul to guide direction.
Soulful Reflection
Regret is not punishment; it is guidance. It reveals where we ignored our inner voice and invites us back into alignment.
The purpose of regret is not to keep us trapped in the past but to awaken awareness in the present.
Healing regret begins when we stop asking, “Why did I do that?” and start asking, “What is my soul inviting me to choose now?”
Because the opposite of regret is not perfection — it is conscious living.
Personal Life Regrets • Not believing in oneself or doubting one's abilities too much
• Choosing safety over following passions or dreams
• Staying in comfort zones instead of taking risks
• Ignoring inner intuition or soul calling
• Comparing oneself constantly with others
Relationship Regrets • Not expressing feelings when there was a chance
• Staying too long in unhealthy or one-sided relationships
• People-pleasing instead of setting boundaries
• Losing meaningful connections due to ego or misunderstanding
• Not forgiving — or not asking for forgiveness
Career and Financial Regrets • Choosing a career only for security or approval rather than fulfillment
• Not learning new skills earlier
• Delaying business or creative ideas out of fear
• Overspending or poor financial decisions
• Not investing in personal growth or education
Health and Emotional Regrets • Ignoring mental health or emotional needs
• Suppressing emotions instead of processing them
• Overworking and neglecting self-care
• Not prioritizing physical health sooner
Spiritual or Inner Growth Regrets • Living according to others’ expectations instead of authentic self
• Disconnecting from inner peace or spiritual practice
• Avoiding inner healing work
• Not listening to the inner child or soul wisdom
End-of-Life Reflections (very common themes) • “I wish I had lived true to myself.”
• “I wish I had expressed love more openly.”
• “I wish I had worried less about what others think.”
• “I wish I had allowed myself to be happier.”
Few examples of regrets
“I knew something felt wrong… but I stayed silent to keep the peace.”
• “I spent years being strong for everyone else, but no one knew I was breaking inside.”
• “I abandoned my needs so people wouldn’t abandon me.”
• “I waited for appreciation that never came.”
• “I kept giving loyalty to people who only gave me lessons.”
• “I shaped myself into who others needed… and forgot who I really was.”
• “I said yes when my soul was screaming no.”
• “I stayed because of memories, not because of reality.”
• “I chose being liked over being respected.”
• “I ignored red flags because I wanted love more than truth.”
• “I thought healing would happen if I just tried harder… but I was the only one trying.”
• “I believed my worth depended on how much I could give.”
• “I stayed small so others would feel comfortable.”
• “I silenced my voice until I forgot what I wanted to say.”
• “I kept waiting for the right time — and years passed.”
• “I made excuses for others while blaming myself.”
• “I confused emotional intensity with eal connection.”
• “I thought sacrificing myself was love.”
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Roop Lakhani
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