SOME GOLDEN THOUGHTS TO PONDER FOR THE PARENTS
By Roop Lakhani - 00:38:00
SOME GOLDEN THOUGHTS TO PONDER FOR THE PARENTS :-
1. If your child lies to you often, it is because you over-react too harshly to their inappropriate behaviour.
Mindseed :listen to them patiently, do not criticise or condemn or nag or taunt. Respond with cool head
2. If your child is not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, you've lost them.
Mindseed : You, as a parent, apologise when you have made mistake. Do not shut them when they come to you to talk to you. Give them respect. Don't gossip in front of them.
3. If your child had poor self-esteem, it is because you advice them more than you encourage them.
Mindseed : child seeks love, compassion, acceptance and your guidance. So motivate them. Encourage them. Make them feel they are worthy children. Show your disagreements in firm and assertive tone.
4. If your child does not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age you have disciplined them regularly in public.
Mindseed : Disciplining children is not required when parents are themselves disciplined. The habits will come to them as they learn more with observation.
5. If your child takes things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them things, you don't let them chose what they want.
Mindseeds : Respect children like how you respect any adult. They need to be asked for their choices like adult, and also given a feeling that you respect their choices
6. If your child is cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly.
Mindseeds : Allow children to make their own decisions. Guide them what would be good for them. As a parent, you are bound to help them but help them grow fearless and courageous.
7. If your child does not respect other people's feelings, it is because instead of speaking to your child, you order and command them.
Mindseeds : Respect your children, don't insult them, dont taunt them, don't make them feel least important, don't judge them harshly, don't label them, don't criticise them.
8. If your child is too quick to anger, it is because you give too much attention to misbehaviour and you give little attention to good behaviour.
Mindseeds : let your children speak about the truth, let them speak about what they want out of you. Explain the reason of not providing what they want appropriately.
9. If your child is excessively jealous, it is because you only congratulate them when they successfully complete something and not when they improve at something even if they don't successfully complete it.
Mindseeds : Enocurage, motivate and inspire every act of your children. Where you want them to improve, show them with kindness and loving way.
10. If your child intentionally disturbs you, it is because you are not physically affectionate enough.
Mindseeds : be compassionate to your child, love them, hug them, cuddle them, show your affection in words and gesture. Even when you know you love them and they love you, express it well.
11. If your child is openly defied, it is because you openly threaten to do something but don't follow through.
Mindseeds : threaten is the dangerous thing, bribing is another dangerous thing, preaching is also bad, they understand everything much before you speak a word. Be cautious.
12. If your child is secretive, it is because they don't trust that you won't blow things out of proportion.
Mindseeds : let your children speak to you of their whole day, ask them how was their day, ask them all about what went good or what made them feel sad. Let you respond matured way and not react.
13. If your child talks back to you, it is because they watch you do it to others and think its normal behaviour.
Mindseeds : You are role model to your child. They copy you, imitate you, they become like you. Be attentive to who you are at authentic level
14. If your child doesn't listen to you but listens to others, it is because you are too quick to make decisions.
Mindseeds : Don't be judgemental or too quick to analyse the situation with children. Be patient, talk what is necessary and not what is unnecessary.
15. If your child rebels it is because they know you care more about what others think than what is right.
Mindseeds : Do not operate from what others would think for you and your children. Think what is right and fair, think what is light for you without your egoic or prejudiced or unfair thoughts
It's time to pay attention toyour children's behaviour
Happy parenting
Roop Lakhani
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