Are you OKAY?
By Roop Lakhani - 14:50:00
That's a powerful and necessary question to ask yourself regularly. Emotions shift, thoughts fluctuate, and sometimes we don’t even realize the weight of what we’re carrying until we pause and check in.
How do you usually respond when you ask yourself, "Am I okay?" Do you find it helpful to sit with the emotions that surface, or do you prefer to redirect your focus?
Feeling "not okay" can show up in different ways—physically, emotionally, mentally, and even energetically. Here are some symptoms that might indicate you're not feeling okay:
Physical Symptoms:
Fatigue or low energy despite resting
Frequent headaches or body aches
Tension in the shoulders, neck, or stomach
Unexplained pains or discomfort
Trouble sleeping (too much or too little)
Changes in appetite (overeating or loss of appetite)
Digestive issues (acidity, bloating, nausea, constipation, or diarrhea)
Heart palpitations or shortness of breath (without a medical reason)
Emotional Symptoms:
Feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or lost
Increased irritability or frustration
Frequent mood swings
Feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or numbness
Anxiety, fear, or excessive worrying
Feeling unappreciated or misunderstood
Crying more often or for no apparent reason
Mental Symptoms:
Constant overthinking or racing thoughts
Trouble focusing or making decisions
Negative self-talk or self-doubt
Feeling unmotivated or uninspired
Forgetfulness or mental fog
Avoiding social interactions or withdrawing from people
Energetic Symptoms:
Feeling drained or exhausted even after rest
Feeling disconnected from yourself or your surroundings
Lack of enthusiasm for things you once enjoyed
A sense of heaviness in your body or aura
Repeating negative patterns despite wanting to change
These symptoms are signs that something needs your attention—whether it’s emotional healing, stress management, or deeper self-care.
When WhatsApp Conversations Affect Your Peace: How to Stay Okay
We live in an age of constant digital interaction, where WhatsApp groups have become a part of our daily lives—family groups, friend circles, professional networks, and spiritual communities. While they serve as a great way to stay connected, they can also become a source of emotional disturbance. Conversations can be insensitive, overwhelming, or even triggering. And suddenly, you realize—you’re not okay.
So, what do you do when a WhatsApp conversation affects your peace?
1. Pause and Acknowledge Your Feelings
Instead of brushing off the discomfort, take a moment to acknowledge what you’re feeling. Is it irritation, sadness, anger, or disappointment? Naming the emotion helps you process it rather than letting it linger unconsciously.
2. Ask Yourself: Why Am I Affected?
Dig a little deeper. What about the conversation disturbed you?
Did someone say something insensitive?
Was there an underlying passive-aggressive tone?
Did you feel unseen, unheard, or misunderstood?
Did it trigger an unresolved emotion or past experience?
Understanding the why behind your reaction helps you respond consciously instead of reacting impulsively.
3. Detach and Take a Digital Break
Not every message requires an immediate response. Sometimes, silence is the best answer. If you feel triggered, step away from the chat. Mute the group for a few hours or even a few days. When you’re emotionally charged, responding can make things worse.
4. Shift Your Focus: What’s in Your Control?
You can’t control what others say, but you can control how much energy you give to it.
Do you need to clarify something, or is it best to let it go?
Can you set a boundary? (e.g., "I’d rather not engage in this kind of discussion.")
Can you change your perspective? Maybe they didn’t intend to be hurtful.
5. Ground Yourself: Reconnect With Your Peace
When digital interactions disturb your energy, return to real life.
Take deep breaths or meditate for a few minutes.
Journal your thoughts instead of overanalyzing in your mind.
Go for a walk or do something that brings you back to yourself.
6. Protect Your Energy: Choose Your Battles
Not every comment or discussion deserves your engagement. Ask yourself, Is this worth my energy? If not, let it go. Protecting your mental and emotional well-being is more important than proving a point.
7. Create a Personal Response Strategy
You can pre-decide how to handle such situations:
✔ If it’s offensive – Ignore or address politely.
✔ If it’s gossip – Stay neutral or change the topic.
✔ If it’s emotionally draining – Exit the conversation.
✔ If it’s a recurring pattern – Consider leaving the group.
Final Thought: You Don’t Have to Participate in Every Discussion
Not everything requires your involvement. Sometimes, peace comes from choosing not to engage. WhatsApp is just a tool—how much power it has over you is entirely your choice.
So, next time a conversation disturbs your peace, pause, breathe, and remind yourself: I choose what I allow into my space.
Would love to hear your thoughts—how do you handle such situations? Drop your reflections in the comments!
Some interesting quotes
1. “You don’t have to attend every argument you’re invited to.”
2. “Not everything that weighs you down is yours to carry.”
3. “Peace begins when expectations end, choose either peace or expectations.”
4. “Maturity is learning to walk away from people and situations that threaten your peace of mind, self-respect, and values.”
5. “Silence isn’t empty, it’s full of answers.”
6. “The less you respond to negative people, the more peaceful your life becomes.”
7. “Your energy is precious. Spend it wisely.”
8. “Not every message deserves a reaction; some only deserve your indifference.”
9. “Your peace is more valuable than proving a point in a group chat.”
10. “You are not responsible for how others communicate, but you are responsible for what you absorb.”
11. “Mute the noise, not your inner voice.”
12. “Every chat doesn’t need your energy—choose where you engage, and where you walk away.”
13. “Protecting your peace sometimes means leaving a conversation unfinished.”
14. “Don’t let a screen dictate your emotions. Reclaim your power.”
15. “Sensitivity is your strength, not a weakness—honor it by choosing what you engage in.”
16. “WhatsApp groups are optional; your mental peace is non-negotiable.”
17. “You don’t have to reply to everything. Silence is also a response.”
18. "Maturity is not see from age, it is seen from your attitude, actions and behaviour."
Still needs some self inquiry?!
Here are some self raising Consciousness questions to shift "not okay" feelings and open up new possibilities:
1. What else is possible here that I haven’t considered?
2. What am I making so significant about this feeling that keeps me stuck?
3. Whose feelings am I actually perceiving? Is this even mine?
4. What am I resisting that, if I allowed it, would create more ease in my life?
5. What energy, space, and consciousness can I be to allow total ease and joy with this?
6. What’s right about this that I am not seeing?
7. If I weren’t judging this feeling, what awareness could it bring me?
8. What am I unwilling to receive that, if I received it, would change everything?
9. What choice can I make right now that will create a different reality?
10. How does it get even better than this?
Try asking these questions with curiosity, not looking for a fixed answer, but allowing awareness to show up in unexpected ways.
To your best moods,
Roop Lakhani
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